Recently, I commented on a pending lawsuit filed by an Oregon pastor against a former member of his church. Since then, I have been following this woman’s plight to spiritual recovery from the alleged spiritual abuse on her daily blog (Beaverton Grace Community Church Survivors). I have come to the conclusion that she indeed did suffer spiritual abuse due in part fro the information she has posted and the fact that her former pastor has defied Biblical teaching on said legal matters. Julie Anne (the former member) is not the first person to suffer spiritual abuse, nor will she be the last. Spiritual abuse is real, and it leaves deep scars.
Spiritual abuse “is the result of a spiritual leader or system that tries to control, manipulate, or dominate a person. This control is often in the form of fear.” (spiritualabuse.org) Spiritual abuse is not indicative only to cults; in fact, many a church and pastor have been guilty of committing spiritual abuse against their members. A former pastor of mine had told me that there are different kinds of pastors; one type is the militant. They attempt to control their members’ spirituality, and these are the ministers who are usually guilty of committing spiritual abuse. To be honest, I have known ministers who were guilty of said sin.
The purpose of the church is to edify and encourage people to have a deep intimate relationship with the Lord. Scripture says, “And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.” (Ephesians 4:11-13; NKJV) I have often told fellow ministers that our calling as pastors is to proclaim the truth; whether or not someone chooses to walk therein is between them and God. We cannot nor should we try to live one’s life for them or control their spirituality.
The shepherding or discipleship movement gave way to much spiritual abuse. In fact, many of the pastors who are guilty of spiritually abusing their members have bought into the “shepherding” concept. One of the tenants of the shepherding movement was the belief that disobeying one’s “shepherd,” i.e. pastor, was the equivalent to disobeying God. One of the tells of spiritual abuse is that it is considered evil persecution or a sin when the pastor is criticized or disobeyed. In fact, many pastors who are guilty of spiritual abuse have bought into the tenants of the shepherding movement and even claim to be a shepherding church. Such terminology ought to raise red flags.
As a follower of Christ, we must be careful whose ministry we sit under. I always encourage Christians who are moving to research the various churches. One needs to ask for the statement of faith of the church. There are many good churches out there; however, there are also many who would fall into the abusive category. Your eternity is worth the effort put forth in choosing a good church to attend.
But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. (Jude 20-21; NKJV)
Boldly contending for the faith–otpp
